Sharon Salzberg, Real Love: The Art of Mindful Connection
"Buddhist teachings discourage us from clinging and grasping to those we hold dear, and from trying to control the people or the relationship. What’s more, we’re encouraged to accept the impermanence of all things: the flower that blooms today will be gone tomorrow, the objects we possess will break or fade or lose their utility, our relationships will change, life will end."
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"Buddhist teachings discourage us from clinging and grasping to those we hold dear, and from trying to control the people or the relationship. What’s more, we’re encouraged to accept the impermanence of all things: the flower that blooms today will be gone tomorrow, the objects we possess will break or fade or lose their utility, our relationships will change, life will end."
Sharon Salzberg, Real Love: The Art of Mindful Connection
"Whatever language we use use to describe healthy relationships, when we’re in them, we feel nourished by them, in body as well as mind."
Sharon Salzberg, Real Love: The Art of Mindful Connection
"When we constantly hear that we should be smarter, better connected, more productive, wealthier—it takes real courage to claim the time and space to follow the currents of our talents, our aspirations, and our hearts, which may lead in a very different direction."
Sharon Salzberg, Real Love: The Art of Mindful Connection
"As we explore new ways of thinking, we need to be willing to investigate, experiment, take some risks with our attention, and stretch."
Sharon Salzberg, Real Love: The Art of Mindful Connection
"The wholesome pursuit of excellence feels quite different from perfectionism."
Sharon Salzberg, Real Love: The Art of Mindful Connection
"The costs of keeping secrets include our growing isolation due to fear of detection and the ways we shut down inside to avoid feeling the effects of our behavior. We can never afford to be truly seen and known—even by ourselves."
Sharon Salzberg, Real Love: The Art of Mindful Connection
"A key barometer to help us weigh the rightness of our actions is self-respect."
Sharon Salzberg, Real Love: The Art of Mindful Connection
"Cultivation of positive emotions, including self-love and self-respect, strengthens our inner resources and opens us to a broader range of thoughts and actions."
Sharon Salzberg, Real Love: The Art of Mindful Connection
"Genuine awe connects us with the world in a new way."
Sharon Salzberg, Real Love: The Art of Mindful Connection
"Real love allows for failure and suffering."
Sharon Salzberg, Real Love: The Art of Mindful Connection
"The starting place for radical re-imagining of love is mindfulness."
Sharon Salzberg, Real Love: The Art of Mindful Connection
"When we can step back even briefly from our hurt, sorrow, and anger, when we put our faith in the possibility of change, we create the possibility for non-judgmental inquiry that aims for healing rather than victory."
Sharon Salzberg, Real Love: The Art of Mindful Connection
"The difference between a life laced through with frustration and one sustained by happiness depends on whether it is motivated by self-hatred or by real love for oneself."
Sharon Salzberg, Real Love: The Art of Mindful Connection
"The practice of sympathetic joy is rooted in inner development. It’s not a matter of learning techniques to “make friends and influence people.” Instead, we build the foundations of our own happiness. When our own cup is full, we more easily share it with others."
Sharon Salzberg, Real Love: The Art of Mindful Connection
"Sometimes people in abusive situations think they’re responsible for the other person’s happiness or that they’re going to fix them and make them feel better. The practice of equanimity teaches that it’s not all up to you to make someone else happy."
Sharon Salzberg, Real Love: The Art of Mindful Connection
"Buddhism has a term for the happiness we feel at someone else’s success or good fortune. Sympathetic joy, as it is known, invites us to celebrate for others."
Sharon Salzberg, Real Love: The Art of Mindful Connection
"Even as we recognize our resentment, bitterness, or jealousy, we can also honor our own wish to be happy, to feel free."
Sharon Salzberg, Real Love: The Art of Mindful Connection
"The more we identify and acknowledge moments when we’re unable to share in someone else’s pleasure and ask ourselves whether another person’s happiness truly jeopardizes our own, the more we pave the way for experiencing sympathetic joy"
Sharon Salzberg, Real Love: The Art of Mindful Connection
"The more we practice sympathetic joy, the more we come to realize that the happiness we share with others is inseparable from our own happiness."
Sharon Salzberg, Real Love: The Art of Mindful Connection
"It is awareness of both our shared pain and our longing for happiness that links us to other people and helps us to turn toward them with compassion."
Sharon Salzberg, Real Love: The Art of Mindful Connection
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