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"People that hold onto hate for so long do so because they want to avoid dealing with their pain. They falsely believe if they forgive they are letting their enemy believe they are a doormat. What they don’t understand is hatred can’t be isolated or turned off. It manifests in their health, choices and belief systems. Their values and religious beliefs make adjustments to justify their negative emotions. Not unlike malware infesting a hard drive, their spirit slowly becomes corrupted and they make choices that don’t make logical sense to others. Hatred left unaddressed will crash a person’s spirit. The only thing he or she can do is to reboot, by fixing him or herself, not others. This might require installing a firewall of boundaries or parental controls on their emotions. Regardless of the approach, we are all connected on this "network of life" and each of us is responsible for cleaning up our spiritual registry."

Shannon L. Alder

"Words matter, but what matters more than words is forgiveness and compassion."

Shannon L. Alder

"Never give a person a piece of your mind when all you really wanted to do was give them a piece of your heart."

Shannon L. Alder

"Never leave a situation unless you know what you needed and what you were never going to get."

Shannon L. Alder

"Act with God's compassion, mercy and forgiveness in mind and you will always be right. Act with revenge in your heart and you will always be wrong."

Shannon L. Alder

"Forgiveness doesn't mean the person that hurt you was released from God's justice. It simply means you no longer need to carry the anger from what they done because you see it wasn't about you really. It was about how they grew up, their past, their values and their way of surviving that falls outside common decency. You just happened to be the person they put all of their past hurts on and blamed. You were in the wrong place at the wrong time."

Shannon L. Alder

"God has witnessed everything done to you. Those that love God will feel shame for what they did. Those that don't ...do not know God or have a concept of repentance or forgiveness."

Shannon L. Alder

"There is no amount of bad karma that can compete with a contrite spirit and God's forgiveness."

Shannon L. Alder

"The difference between a moral person and a person of honor is that the latter regrets a discreditable act, made out of weakness and tries to make amends with their life when they find the opportunity to say they are sorry is lost."

Shannon L. Alder

"I don't understand women that call themselves a "bitch". It doesn't empower a woman. Rather, it reveals to everyone that you were deeply hurt at one time. Because of the pain your still carrying, you will continue to hurt anyone that reminds you of those moments when you let your guard down and were fooled. Sadly, it sends a clear message to the observant that you are still hurt. If only women would realize that "we all" have moments of stupidity then they would stop comparing themselves to the masses."

Shannon L. Alder

"Often the truth is in front of your face, but your eyes and heart are so full of lies that you can't see it."

Shannon L. Alder

"Unless she scares the hell out of you, blows the cobwebs from your mind, scorches your heart with passion, melts your chains with goodness and lights a fire in your pants...then she is not the one."

Shannon L. Alder

"Why do women waste their time trying to convince their insecure family members and girlfriends that they are beautiful? Self esteem is not a beauty cream that you can rub all over them and see instant results. Instead, convince them they are not stupid. Every intelligent woman knows outward beauty is a nip, tuck, chemical peel or diet away. If you don't like it, fix it."

Shannon L. Alder

"Life has always been about God winning. He will send you a miracle that will take you through the conflict in your life into a better situation that will create the most peace in the world--- if you only believe."

Shannon L. Alder

"If there was any great lesson in life it was this: No battle was ever won with silence."

Shannon L. Alder

"People with anxiety and trust issues find themselves drawn to people of consistency because they feel safe with someone who is predictable. However, that doesn’t cure their problem. The anxious person still remains the same because anxiety is a wave that crashes on the shore every time an unpredictable circumstance challenges their expectations and comfort zone."

Shannon L. Alder

"The changes we make in life often happen when we have a degree of certainty. However, the pain of our past failures and the fears of our peers often fuel our uncertainty. This inability to predict the future is why people find themselves stuck and unable to move forward. They don't want to feel the emotions of failure. They prefer to talk themselves into settling for an "okay" life, rather than the life they really want. However, failure is a matter of perspective! Is it not failure when you don't take a chance on the one thing you need? There is no happiness in regret, staying safe or settling for anything less than what you can have through action."

Shannon L. Alder

"There is a gap between what we know and what we want to experience. Either, fear will keep us tethered to the familiar or plung us into the sea. The bridge is either God or ourselves, and with each big decision we must choose who we trust the most."

Shannon L. Alder

"Always trust your gut instinct. There will come a time when you will understand, but for now trust God has a plan greater than you have ever imagined."

Shannon L. Alder

"The only way to find peace is to face the unknown and trust that God has heard your tears."

Shannon L. Alder

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