Shannon L. Alder

"If you put yourself in the emotion that you want from others, you are more likely to receive it."

"The actions of our closest friends say a lot about our character—what we overlook, what we contribute to and what is important to us when the world doesn’t take notice."

"Some women don't care what you can do for them. They care about what you could make of them in the inside."

"You will know the person who was meant to be in your life by how they make you feel spiritually. If they live in such a way that inspires you to become better then you have found someone you can evolve with vs. raise."

"Anyone can find the dirt on someone, but very few can wipe it from their own shoes."

"People who made their dreams come true didn’t simply go after it. They changed the person they were, in order to fit the type of person that would live that type of dream."

"Sometimes, we are unable to break free because we are held captive by divine assignment because in our problem God has given us a unique purpose."

"Sometimes the silence of your friends is worse than your enemy's words."

"Like hatred, guilt can’t be locked in the silence of forgetting, without taking part of your soul with it."

"Silence is best reserved for the fearful and foolish."

"There are always a million words behind the silence."

"Silence by any other name is called shame."

"Silence is for fools. Communication is for leaders. Justice is for those brave enough to not stand another moment dealing with people that feel the solution to any problem is through cold indifference because of their lack of courage and insecurities."

"Be leery of silence. It doesn't mean you won the argument. Often, people are just busy reloading their guns."

"A heart worth loving is one you understand, even in silence."

"There are no guarantees with finally being honest and coming clean with people. Sometimes you don’t win love back. Sometimes you lose the love you had. Sometimes you crush people that cared. Sometimes you break apart families. Sometimes you lose your career. Sometimes you lose your way of life. Sometimes you end up worse off than you were before. However, you walk away with a heart free from lies, regret and you have closure. Within time, you find yourself in a life that is far from the prison you once lived in. This type of freedom is the scariest road you will ever travel. However, it is the road God will never let you travel alone."

"People's behaviors are messages, not a diagnosis because I can no longer discern the world's version of insanity."

"We are all lies waiting for the day when we will break free from our cocoon and become the beautiful truth we waited for."

"We have all at one time been stranded on islands shouting lies across the seas of misunderstanding, hoping the fog will carry our mischief to the distant ports in people’s minds."

"Your love life is insignificant when it comes to raising your children to be respectable human beings. The moment you see them suffer or lower their standards because of your selfishness, is the day you should realize that nothing matters more than them. You are not just the queen or king of your fairy tale. The real story of your life is the gift of time God gave you with them."